Brought to you by Deborah Simmons, PhD, LMFT
One of my beautiful clients told me recently about a resentment prayer that they learned about in a 12 step program. As I listened, I realized that I had instinctively learned to let go of resentment toward pregnant women after I had had a preemie at 26 weeks gestation. For quite a while after the birth of my child, I was angry beyond words. I was angry that others got pregnant easily and had easy pregnancies. I was even angry that they got to wear their pretty maternity dresses. One day though, I realized that none of these women had done anything to me. They did not know me and I did not know them. It was not personal. When I stopped taking it personally, I began to have a moment of peace. I practiced hoping and wishing that each of the pregnant ladies I saw would have a happy, healthy, safe pregnancy. As I did so, resentment, jealousy, and the fist around my heart released. I now hope for the best for every pregnant woman. I feel that it is a life mission for me to send love, health and safety to each woman for a fruitful reproductive journey.
So even if you are currently filled with resentment, whether it is about reproduction or any other resentment that you have in your life, send that person your best wishes. You may not feel it at first, and it may even feel false. But keep doing it. You might be surprised that you begin to feel free and more compassionate for them and yourself.